Bride’s Sisters Need Attention Too

Far right is getting married. She’s a few years older now.

I saw my (triplet) sister in a wedding dress for the first time about 30 minutes ago, via the pictures my mother sent of the shopping trip my she and my sisters embarked on without me.  I realize I’m in Egypt, but would it be too hard for them to wait an unreasonably long time so I could give them advice to ignore when I came home for Christmas? Is that really too much to ask? According to my mother, it is. And so I’m left living the experience in 2-D, alone in my room in Cairo, looking at the beads and white fabric and wondering what the what is going on.

Seeing my sister in a wedding dress was surprisingly weird and emotional even if I wasn’t present in the flesh.  And thus the news of  “my sister’s getting married” continues its slow journey from theory to reality.

She really is going to get married. There will be a color-schemed wedding with lots of friends and non-friends and food and drink. Her last name is going to change. Eventually she’ll go off and live with her husband and there will be a life together in a place no one knows (hopefully not Oklahoma), and I’m going to be moving in with them after I get back from Egypt (probably not true). Her life will be permanently altered in a way that I won’t be able to understand until I myself am married, and there’s always going to be that weird guy hanging around at our house or at her bungalow, apartment, or shack.

All I can say is that if this wedding dress picture experience is any indication for the future, I’m going to be a complete wreck at the wedding and will alternately be using her dress to dry my tears or begging her to explain what happened over the past 21 ish years that brought us to this point. Weren’t we going to be kids forever? Can I please move in to the apartment next to them/spare bedroom to be a part of their married life? Are honeymoons really just for the couples or can sisters come too? How big of a deal is this? Can I handle it? Can she handle it? Can the caterers handle it?

She probably doesn’t realize this, but her wedding is a big life change for all of us, especially her. I wish I could be there as she picks colors and doilies, but I suppose the random blog post is going to have to do instead. And yes, she’s probably mad about me blogging on this topic. But luckily she rarely reads my blog, so maybe she won’t find out about it. Let’s just keep it a secret between you and me, okay? I’ll let you know how the wedding goes. I’m co-piloting, by the way, so it will be in safe but emotionally unstable hands.

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11 thoughts on “Bride’s Sisters Need Attention Too

  1. grenobloise says:

    These feelings are totally normal for someone who loves her sister! I wish I was close to my bros. They are already far away so them getting married wouldn’t change anything except me being like, “Wow, they are married. Wow, maybe they’ll have kids soon?” .. I would start worrying that because we’re not close I’d miss out on seeing my future niece/nephew and then realize why the heck I’m worrying about something that didn’t even happen yet.

    I prefer below the knee as well. My mom re-married my dad not that long ago which was a bit strange (after 8 years divorced).. Bridesmaid dresses were dark purple above the knee. Everything is often above the knee, even the dresses in all the stores. Grrr. Green ey? I like Green but depending on the shade it can be lovely or terrible. What color would you pair it with? It’s hard to pair Green with any color other than white I think.

    Have you met your sister’s husband-to-be?

    • edrevets says:

      Love can be such a pain sometimes, but we all deal with it I suppose. I’m just glad I’ll be there for the big day and a few weeks before next June so I can bother everyone and/or try to help.

      I believe my sister was thinking of pairing green with grey, which would look nice. Gold also goes I think, but that might just be my Lord of the Rings fashion sense coming out. I have indeed met the fiancee, and he’s a real stand up guy (something we’re all happy about). I wouldn’t be surprised if there are a lot more wedding posts coming up next May and June, especially since I’ll be leaving Egypt but not the blogosphere so stay tuned for family drama!

  2. smeagolina says:

    yep, it’s really weird seeing a sister get married in a wedding dress, et al – but in my case, sarah’s about 3 years old than me, which makes it a little easier!! have you picked out your bridesmaid outfit yet?


    • edrevets says:

      I keep on hoping for green and below the knee, but my sister wants grey and above the knee. Even though I’m co-captain honor maid I think my sister’s opinion might win out on this one.

      • Emily B says:

        you hate showing your knees! what will you do? and you forgot mansion in the list of places sarah and husband could live. didn’t you ever play MASH?


      • edrevets says:

        I’ll refuse to be in the wedding I swear it! Or I’ll just get a really big bouquet of flowers to cover everything up.

        And I think everyone knows the only people getting mansions nowadays are CEO’s, and Sarah and spouse are not heading that direction (sorry, guys.)

      • smeagolina says:

        you could probably wear the grey dress with green fabric knee-pads so everyone would be happy! or wonder why you’re dressed for a fancy volleyball game. and love the title, btw

  3. Mom says:

    Emily, you are soooooooo cute in that picture. And just look at you now…..No wonder random guys shout out their love for you as they whiz by.

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